Ok so I can be pretty talkative. When I'm around friends and family I can talk at a million miles an hour and I can rant like there's no tomorrow. But if there is one thing i Loathe, it's chitchat.
To differentiate from what I call chitchat and small talk. Small talk: light trivial conversation in necessary situations. Such as breaking the ice during introductions, filling the void of silence among people who don't know each other and keeping the conversation up. This kind of thing you have to have patience for, ease into conversation and such. By "chitchat", I mean rubbish talking with no particular purpose. Where you take turns say "uhuh... yeah... mmhmm" and aren't really listening anyway. Especially when the things being discussed [if you can call it a discussion] where the words have no meaning or value.
I don't like this conversation on the false pretence that we're best buddies. It's not natural!
But then, I'm always one for disliking people in general. It's funny, I like to think I'm diplomatic. I won't take someone on first impressions alone, even if they are quite bad. I'm prepared to talk, small talk if you like, to get to know someone, if they are prepared to get to know me too. But once I start to gauge a person, I often get peeved off quickly. From how they interact with me and others, I decide whether I want to continue hanging around them or if I'd be happy to never see them again. [And if I don't like someone, my friends will know very soon.]
I like to approach people and other aspects of life with very specific expectations, some of them I've shared with you. Lets meet on the assumption that we have nothing in common and we live on different planets. [I view most people like this!] Before leaving the house let's remind ourselves to beware of stupid people [they're everywhere!] Before making decisions, balance BOTH extremes, would I regret doing it [the consequences to bare] or not doing it [if I die tomorrow.]
One thing I do, whenever I'm out, is try to be aware of other people around me. It's surprising how many people are oblivious to the people lurking around them, my friends in dark noisy clubs. When I'm walking somewhere alone, I notice if there's someone walking behind me, if a car pulls up nearby, try to find a reflective surface to see how far they are away from me. When driving, I think more about the movements of other people and how safely they are driving as well as mine. Don't stay in someone else's blind spot for crying out loud! It seems like basic principle to me: don't assume others will do what you think they will.
I realised I might sound preachy, that's not the intention. It just surprises me that I don't think like others. A few others which always surprise me is when older people [usually at that annoying age of not actually being old 25-35] act painfully condescending. King Lear, thou shoudst not have been old before thou hadst been wise.
Currently on top of the most annoying list:
1. Guy at uni - talks about boring stories [he's already told us] and with no point. Expects us to sit through them. Is vulguar, reminds us how special he thinks he is Obsessed with his b-grade basketball team.
Guy at work - asks me questions about my hobbies and whether I have a boyfriend and tells me how easy I have life these days as a young-un [he's 29]
2. Girls I hung out with at the RSL last night - boring, talked about stuff they understood and their friends [which I don't know]. Spent lots of time texting and lounging when they had nothing to talk about. Couldn't make an effort to get to know me, try as I did, so we all gave up on conversation.
3. Lecturer who never gets to his point - makes paragraph long sentences with "big words" in order to convey a point which he's forgotten by the time he gets half way through. Tries to recover and continue, ends up trying to explain the same point again with different words.
4. People on my msn randoms list - only talk to me when i change profile picture, after "how are you" and "what are you up to these days" run out of things to say except crap-all i can't even be bother to reply to. I'll just pretend I'm away from the computer.